Monday, October 01, 2007

Secret Pal

I got kicked out of secret pal for not blogging. I didn't blog because I haven't knit. At all. However, I did send things to my pal and apparently that doesn't count. At all. I did comment on my pal's blog from time to time and apparently that doesn't count. At all. I did send her emails from time to time (which she sometimes would respond to) and apparently that doesn't count. At all. All that matters is that I blog. Nothing else.

Life lately has been chaotic, and apparently I was supposed to blog about nothing. However, I hate reading that. I like to read posts with pictures, a pattern, and yarn specifications. I like to read happy posts about pretty projects.

No one wants to read about me being stressed out with school. No one wants to read about how not one, but two, family members died this weekend and I'm stuck in Michigan away from those that I care about most. That just brings down your day. People go to knitting blogs to read about knitting. And I just simply haven't been knitting.

I think the part that stings the most about being kicked out of Secret Pal is that they just don't care that I was trying. I sent a gift a few weeks ago, and I actually sent one this morning before I was forcibly removed. My pal has now been instructed to mark the gift as returned. I figured that I had time to either 1. Blog about nothing, or 2. Send some gifts. Apparently, I chose the wrong option. Silly me. I would have thought that a present was better than a silly email any day.

I had a great pal. She was so kind and understanding. However, I will not sign up for this again. Any group of women who can't understand that life sometimes happens isn't a group of women that I want to be associated with any longer. Additionally, anyone who thinks that blogging is the most important thing in life when you're faced with TWO unexpected deaths in your family while you're 600 miles away - isn't someone that I want to be associated with either.

So Secret Pal, here's your update. I hope the rest of you have a great day.

16 comments:

Anonymous said...

This is ridiculous. Go look at your pals blog. There is ONE comment. ONE. You sent two emails. And you blogged once. Had you followed the rules you would not have been kicked out. That's the way it goes.

If you need a refresher on the rules go take a peek at the numerous emails I sent out and look at the SP11 blog.

I am sorry about your losses and that you won't be joining in again. Like the rest of life, follow the rules and things will be fine.

DancingFish said...

That sucks. I don't join knitterly stuff very often because school/work/life always comes first and you can't control that.

Very sorry to hear about your losses.

Jen said...

Amanda, I am sorry that you are having a rough few weeks. I am sorry that it became worse with the whole SP thing.

I think that is a very crappy thing that they did to you. I understand that there are rules and everything but it's not like you didn't do anything. You sent your pal stuff. You were trying with everything going on. It's too bad for SP that they are losing out on such a good person to have in their swap.

Hope your week gets better. I am thinking of you!

Amy said...

It's amazing to me that they did that to you after having such a rough time! I thought there was a general understanding that "life happens" and if your hostess/pal knew what was going on, you were okay.

I got completely stiffed in SP10 (as in, nothing came) and the hostesses didn't care, you send packages and they kick you out? Give me a break! I'm even more impressed that one of the hostesses (I assume) is low enough to post anonymously on your blog. Wow, the exchange has sunk even lower in my view.

Shelley said...

This Secret Pal thing just adds insult to injury. And anonymous here needs to get a life. You get messed over just as badly by following the rules as by not following any rules! Rules are set in place to try to keep a group of people to the spirit of a joint endeavor. If the spirit of the endeavor is lost, then the endeavor itself has lost all meaning. This is clearly the case with Secret Pal. I was going to join it myself, but I clearly won't be now.

Amanda, I'm sorry you've had such an awful week. I'll say some prayers for you and your family.

adrienne said...

I'm sorry things have been so rough for you lately :(
I'll be thinking of you and your family...

Sarah said...

We do still want to hear from you to know you're alive, even if you're not knitting.
But sticklers for the rules just take all the fun out of it. I'm sorry you had such a bad time. Not all the SP people are like that, but I can understand why you wouldn't do it again.

Jennifer said...

so sorry to hear about your losses.. you and your family will be in my prayers. also sorry to hear about the drama w/ sp...this stuff does happen and it's unfortunate, but you would think there would be more understanding, especially if your pal was understanding and ok w/ the situ. anyway, sorry again and know that i'll keep reading your blog, no matter how long between updates (i'm slacking in this area, too...blogging isn't always the most important thing in our lives lol). xo

Ava said...

You and your family are in my prayers, Amanda.

Can't believe people are so mean-spirited...

Esoteric Knitter said...

Epp, sorry to hear about this. It's really crappy to be kicked out especially since you've been trying.

KSD said...

Hang on. People out here care about you. Things WILL turn around.

Shelby said...

Someone seems to think that I left the anonymous comment on your blog. I didn't. I just wanted to let you know that.

Ewe-niss said...

Amanda - I am so sorry for your loss. How awful that you were not able to be near your family during this time.

Knitting should be a relaxer, and something to help you deal with stress. NOT cause stress. Personally I say, 'screw 'em - they're zealots. Wishing you the best and Knit on! :-)

Donna said...

Amanda, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your loved ones. Sometimes life is just too hard to bear. Please don't feel too bad about the swap thing....there are more important things in life. I enjoy your blog whenever you write. Hang In.

Opal said...

I'm so sorry about the loss of your loved ones and I'm sorry about the shabby treatment you received at the hands of the people who are organizing the Secret Pal deal. I mean, is it too much to ask for a little compassion?

hakucho said...

I am so sorry you have had so many stresses in your life lately including the loss of two love ones. That is so hard being so far away. Sure hope each day gets a little easier. When major things happen in one's life it really puts all the little things in perspective. I know I learned that lesson the hard way "not to sweat the small small stuff" when my dear mother passed away. Just do what you can and know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. (I'm late in reading this as my life as been hectic as well!)